It is unhealthy to hold grudges and hold onto pain.  For me forgiveness has not always been quick and easy.  There have been times when it took me years to forgive because the pain was deep.  One day I read Proverbs 25:21-22, “[i] your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; For so you will heap coals of fire on his head, And the LORD will reward you.”  We reap what we sow.  If the love you sow is unconditional, then don’t allow the actions of others to determine how you portray it.  Christ offers the greatest gift of forgiveness for us, but we must be willing to forgive others the way he forgives us.  I once heard someone say that holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.  You may wonder what to say. Look to Exodus 4:12 “[n]ow therefore, go, and I will be with your mouth and teach you what you shall say.”  Just as important is to remember to forgive yourself.  God’s Blessings to all!