As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. Psalm 103:12
Happy Thursday! The weekend is almost here again. It’s a good time to free our hearts and souls of the burden of unforgiveness.
A sweet and very wise friend told me a few years ago that all sins are equal. Sin is sin, and no one sin is greater than another. I was outraged. How could murder be the same as lying about the reason you are late for work? I mean, some sins carry a great burden on the person the sinful act was toward. For example, children who have been sexually abused may take many years to recover and some may never recover. They may be struggling with psychological issues for the remainder of their life. How could a sin as horrible as sexual abuse be the same as cheating on your spouse? Of course, this is just one example. There are many, many more. Then, the question becomes how do we forgive the unforgivable?
What I have found helpful is to first pray for help. Then, realize forgiveness is for you, not the other person. It’s a little like taking the anchor out of your boat and letting the wind carry your boat out to sea. It frees your soul. The next step is praying for the well-being and happiness of the person who wronged you. This gets easier over time and ultimately helps you to feel compassion for that person. Remember, you don’t have to forget what they have done. However, when we hold on to pain, we become bitter. The last step is to realize that you, too, are a sinner and if you do not forgive, you will not be forgiven.
I know that sounds too easy. It is a simple process, but it can take many years for some or a few minutes for others to accomplish. Some will never forgive.
Today. Join me in letting go and forgiving the unforgivable. God bless you.