Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. John 14:27
It’s beautiful Saturday in sunny Florida. I hope you are feeling well and enjoying the weekend.
Do you have skeletons in your closet? Have you ever felt that your family disfunction is so great that nothing could repair the damage? Do you ever sit and wonder what went wrong? Does chaos rule? I have good news. Everyone has a few skeletons in their closets. All families have issues, you just may not know. Often the source goes back many generations and bad habits are replicated because we become much like the environment we were raised in. It’s okay. Even if you think things will never be better, you have the ability and strength to change things for future generations! What better gift to give your family.
It’s a simple process, but it requires determination, forgiveness and love. It requires “Agape Love”, a love that looks beyond self to others. Most importantly it requires faith in God. You have all the tools you need within you. All you need to do is talk to God and ask for help. Ask God to help you know what to do to set an example for future generations. Then, stop thinking about the problems and place your focus on positive change. Make sure your actions are based on love and God’s direction. For example, if your family often gets mad at family members and stops talking for years or decades, realize that this is unhealthy behavior. You can be angry and disagree from time to time without alienating the people you love. Next time you have a disagreement, hug and tell your family members you love them. Then, show your family members that you still love them. Being right isn’t always worth it. God will help you find healing as you show his love.
God bless you on your journey to make the future better for your family!