He makes all things beautiful in His time. Ecclesiastes 3:11
Happy Friday! This morning I’m enjoying spending time with my grandson. He’s growing up so fast.
Speaking of growing, our kitten continues to grow. Last night my husband and I were reading, when Dominic decided he wanted to sit in a box that was too tiny for him. It reminded me of the many times I’ve tried to fit in, when I really didn’t. I remember a time when I was about 12 years old, when I wanted to be part of a group of girls. I had to do what they said to belong. One day I got my hair cut differently. They didn’t want to be my friends anymore. When there was a new kid at school, who they didn’t like, they wanted me to be mean to the girl. They wanted to choose my boyfriends. Well, as you can imagine, after a while I grew tired of their shenanigans. When I married my first husband, I didn’t fit in with his family. They loved to party. The booze drinking began early in the morning and lasted throughout the day. Marital infidelities were common. I just couldn’t fit it in.
You’ve probably never had problems with fitting in, but you may have noticed others who didn’t fit. Have you ever wondered why? Have you ever left someone out because they were different? Have you ever gone along with the group when they weren’t so nice to someone? Have you ever seen this group situation happening and didn’t know what to do? What usually happens is people go along with the group, even when they know the group is wrong. However, the same group will leave them out when they don’t do what the group likes. Over time my ex-husband’s drug and alcohol abuse, along with numerous infidelities tore us apart. The tighter I held on, the more he pulled away. After two years, we were divorced. While God wants us to love one another, He doesn’t want us to sacrifice our beliefs and behaviors. Fortunately, His love is strong, even when we make mistakes.
Psalm 93:4 says “mightier than the waves in the sea is his love for you.” Have you ever thought about the power of the waves in the ocean. The waves are so strong that they can overturn ships. They can erode rocks. The power of waves is used to generate electricity. Gazing at the ocean is hypnotic. We even have apps and devices that simulate the sound of waves, because of the relaxation benefits. So, in terms of might, God’s love for you is enduring and everlasting.
If you don’t feel like you fit in, maybe it’s because you don’t. Maybe the problem isn’t you at all. Have you ever considered that maybe you don’t fit in because you don’t want to be controlled? Maybe you don’t fit it, because you aren’t willing to lower your standards. Maybe the small thinking of the group puts you in a box that’s too tiny. While we can all be kind and love others, God doesn’t want you to lower your standards or treat others badly. If you feel like you don’t fit in as a Christian, maybe it’s because you are a leader for God. Rest securely in God’s love when you don’t fit with what society say says is right. Next time you don’t fit in, ask yourself two questions. Why do I feel this way and what can I do to show God’s love to others?
So, what can we do to resolve this issue? There will always be people who want to control us and make us feel bad, but the good news is they can’t make us do or feel anything. We are in charge of our actions and emotions. God is careful to protect our free will. Not only can we make good decisions about our behaviors and attitudes, but we can be Christian leaders. Our combined actions will help others to learn how to treat other people. Imagine what would happen if every time we felt left out, we used the opportunity to spread God’s love. Wouldn’t that be awesome!
When you go out today, start a new movement. Be a Christian leader spreading God’s love. God bless you.