“Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.”
1 John 4:11 KJV
Happy Tuesday! One of the things I’m going to work on today is loving the people that get on my nerves. Is this a pride issue? Yes!
Have you ever felt like you are minding your own businesses and it seems like someone just wants to steal your joy? Maybe they are ignoring you or smacking when they eat. It could be even worse than that. Maybe they have done you wrong, physically or emotionally. You forgive them, but just don’t want to be in their presence.
The love mentioned in 1 John 4:11 is a type of love Jesus taught, where we are to love others expecting nothing in return. That also applies to people who get on our nerves. God loves us and surrounds us with love. One way we can show our love towards God is to love others as he loves us. I’m not saying this is easy or always happens immediately. It is something we should work on daily. While you are working on loving others, love yourself.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;” Proverbs 3:5 NIV
Good Morning and happy Saturday! I apologize for being behind on my postings. I haven’t forgotten about my viewers. Natural disasters are something people are probably never 100 percent prepared to handle. This post is a running diary of events that have taken place in my life over the last week and a half. The lesson follows.
Tell Me Something Good Monday (10/08/18)
Happy Monday! It’s a great time to share something good. This morning I’m thankful for messages from God. While in church yesterday morning, I received a reminder to listen to a worship service on the Rhema app. This was the second time this happened and I wasn’t signed into the app. Well, it was a busy day and I forgot about the message. Later in the afternoon I received another reminder for the evening service. So, my husband and I decided to listen. What a blessing from God. The sermon was about trusting in God and not in things.
Try Something New Tuesday (10/09/18)
Hurricane Michael is on its way. While we are working today, everyone is boarding up and preparing for the storm. Our town is about 60 – 70 miles inland and we have seen many category 2 hurricanes. The biggest threat our area has is flooding and tornadoes from the feeder bands. This may sound mild, but tornadoes have caused severe damage in the past. Often Floridians become complacent because hurricanes are unpredictable and common. Over the years I’ve seen hurricanes change directions many times. Even with today’s technology, it’s easy to fail to prepare.
Use Your Gifts to Change the World Wednesday (10/10/2018)
Good Morning. Last night we stood in line waiting for hours to purchase last-minute items. I’m thankful that I was able to fuel up my car Monday night. Our daughter, Anna, and grandson, Landon spent the night, and we are glued to the television waiting for the upcoming storm. Our son-in-law is in the National Guard but was called to work in a local prison. This morning my supervisor, the City Manager of our town, asked me to notify my staff that they should stay home on Thursday. This action caught my attention because he is very mindful of good management. The radar images are a little frightening, but also fascinating. It’s amazing to watch science advancements. We even had a discussion about how it must have been for people years ago when hurricanes couldn’t be predicted. One way we can use our gifts to change the world today is to be strong and trust God.
Forgiveness Thursday (10/11/2018)
The eye wall of Hurricane Michael passed over our home at about 2 pm yesterday. I’ve never seen anything like this storm. The view from our windows was solid white. Visibility was less than two feet. Repeatedly we heard and felt objects pivoting out of control into our home. There was a loud roar like a jet flying over as the eye-wall passed. The windows and doors shook. We closed all doors internal to our home and sheltered inside, first an internal hall and later a closet, all the while trying to keep Landon feeling safe and not afraid. During the eye of the storm, we ventured out to see what seemed like horrible destruction. Then, we hurried in to safety and rode out the back eye-wall. The second two hours was just as bad as the first. Our next trip outside seemed like total devastation.
Mornings are always better. I don’t know if it was the fresh light or God’s presence, but as we walked through our yard I became aware of how blessed we truly are. Five huge oak trees, a pine tree, and many other trees were down in our yard. One oak tree in particular that was once majestic is now a twig. Our fence was destroyed. The really cool thing was my husband’s grill didn’t budge, there was only one limb on our roof and trees down were as close as 6 inches to our home, but we were safe. God is so good.
Despite the good blessings, all we can see is destruction around us. There is no electricity, phone service, cellular reception, water, Internet, etc. My We are isolated. We were able to see the weather channel for a short period of time when we had fuel in the generator, and while Britt repaired the well and water pump. However, there is no news of our community. We don’t know what to do about jobs. We can’t contact anyone. Occasionally, we receive a text that we can’t respond to from frantic family members. We have heard rumors of natural gas fuel leaks, sewer plant leaks and other issues, but we just can’t assess the situation. It’s hot and tempers are short.
By afternoon the generator was out of fuel. My first thought was to siphon some fuel from one of the vehicles. It sounded like a good idea, but modern vehicles are made to prevent such things, probably due to theft. We finally decided to try to find fuel for the generator despite apparent dangers. That’s when we discovered we were totally blocked in. We were able to maneuver around all trees on our road. Then we carefully traveled around downed trees, spaghetti power lines and downed poles on the highways to drive about an hour north. There we found long lines for fuel, when it was available. In a society where cash was rarely needed, now credit cards were no good. No cash means no gas. We thankfully live next door to my husband’s parents who gave us cash to purchase fuel. This small task took more than four hours and placed us in position of maneuvering the same obstacles at night and after curfew. If we were not allowed to return home, where would we go? What would happen to our pets? At times like these patience is important and that’s when it’s the toughest.
We did make it through. While we were out of the house, we saw devastation beyond our imagination. We were able to see photos of some of the damage in our area. We made contact with some of our loved ones and were able to understand a little more about the extent of damage in the area. We were also able to make contact with our son. He lives in Tallahassee and we are so thankful that he is okay. Isolation is difficult to handle. We also learned the company my husband works for is critically damaged. I recalled the many people who didn’t want to build to State and Federal standards, and often took out their frustrations on my staff and me.
Today was definitely a day to ask for forgiveness and forgive others.
Spread the Love Friday (10/12/018)
It’s Spread the Love Friday! What now? My husband and I started the day with morning Bible Study. Coffee is a luxury item. By the way, it’s hard to keep track of days. This morning I had one bar on my cell phone and was able to speak to my boss.
Today, there is a new level of desperation. People are looting houses, businesses and offices. Business owners I spent so much time assisting are now facing devastation. One contacted me begging me not to condemn the building housing her business. My heart melts. I learned that the home of a sweet friend from church, whose husband died only a couple of months ago, was looted. People have been waiting for many hours in line at gas stations that don’t have fuel. Some need medication. It’s a little cooler, but still very warm. My heart goes to my coworkers who are working hours on end, and my friend, who is interim County Administrator and still on maternity leave who has been on call.
The best way to spread God’s love seems to be a comfort to others.
Last night we learned my brother and sister-in-Law are alive. They finally cut their way out of their home yesterday. My aunt was able to leave town too, which made me especially grateful since she has medical needs and lives alone. On the home front, my wonderful husband cooked us a hot meal on the grill. Britt is definitely gifted in his cooking skills. He made shepherds pie in a cast iron skillet. Haha. It’s amazing what can be done with a few supplies, but we are aware our supplies will dwindle with time. After dinner Anna heard someone in the house. As it turned out, it was Dominic playing in Landon’s toddler tent. What a relief!
This morning we were greeted by our son-in-Law. What a great sight! They took a drive into town and reported back no damage to their home. We still do not have much contact with the outside world. However, I did hear from my friend and her daughter who are blocked in and low on water. It’s hard to find help for people. Help is stretched thin.
This afternoon we took another road trip for supplies. Some areas look better. While I was away, I was able to make contact with family and friends. I was also happy to receive a phone call from my boss, who was checking on me. I was so excited to hear that he needed me and my staff on Monday at work to help rebuild the city. In some ways this is a bit too soon, but after investing twenty years in this community I can hardly wait. On the way home we heard a Laura Story song on the radio and we had a discussion about the future of our town.
Tomorrow was supposed to be a special celebration at our church. Our church is among the damaged structures.
Praise the Lord it’s Sunday! The last few days are a blur and I feel exhausted with the situation. This morning we chose to stay home and study our Bibles. As I was reading I realized the importance of helping others. So Britt and I reached out. It’s so easy to hoard supplies when they are running low, but God provides when we have faith. Of course, I already knew this, but trials don’t always bring out the best in us.
This afternoon we surveyed the damage. The City is destroyed. We also checked on a couple of friends along the way. Tomorrow we both return to work.
Tell me Something Good Monday (10/15/2018)
It’s Monday and tough to go to work with messy wet hair and a sweaty body. I did manage to wash my clothes and get a cold shower. This is one of those days I wish I could wake up beautiful. I soon discovered that many had worse damage than we had experienced. Emotions were high and I watched my coworkers as they broke down in tears. I cried too. I tried to reach out to those in need.
My department’s assignment was to walk the streets and pick up trash. That was very tough. Within an hour the heat had gotten the best of me. I poured water over my head and down my back. Another department head had left his utility vehicle and trailer for our use, which worked out well. We delivered food to shut-ins in the community. What a great feeling to help others.
City workers have been blessed beyond belief with free food and fire, police, and linemen workers from around the country helping us. Everyone is positive and doing all that they can to help.
Try Something New Tuesday (10/16/18)
It’s Try Something New Tuesday and I was glad to get a different assignment. While that seemed to work out, tempers seem to flare with anxiety. I started the day with tears and felt pressure all day. Most of the day we worked inside. Later in the day I learned of an income based apartment complex requiring residences to move out within 72 hours. So far, there is no resolution. So sad.
Last year after Christmas I purchased a ticket with a friend for the Joyce Meyer’s Love Life Women’s Conference. In July I learned my friend would not be attending with me. I was thankful she gave me her ticket hoping to invite another friend to join me, and share hotel and travel expenses. I had not been able to find anyone, because as the year progressed my friends had made other plans. I had been waiting for the conference to be in Florida for years, and with tears in my eyes I tried to cancel my hotel room. I was unable to accomplish what seemed like a simple task. However, I was able to reduce my stay by one night and my sweet administrative assistant agreed to go. What a blessing! So, next week we will be gone a couple of days. It’s not the ideal time, but it will probably renew our spirits.
Use Your Gifts to Change the World Wednesday (10/17/18)
It’s Use Your Gifts to Change the World Wednesday and I feel worn out from stress and work. Last night I went to bed about six pm, because I couldn’t seem to hold my eyes open. The day started with me preparing some maps for an early meeting without the Internet, but I was happy because I had figured out a way to use my blow dryer before leaving home. I was also glad to be working on a project with another department. It gave me a chance to do something positive.
I was grateful to receive a special gift from my staff for boss’s day. What an honor! I also had an opportunity to deliver 250 meals to shut-ins. I hope to be able to do this tomorrow. The saga of the people being forced to leave their apartment complex continues. I hope this can be stopped.
Forgiveness Thursday 10/18/2018
It’s Forgiveness Thursday. I need to ask for forgiveness for my tongue. It’s easy to get short-tempered and you never know who’s listening. As someone representing city government, it’s important to be positive and smile. Yet, I find myself crying sometimes.
We are having daily Department Head Meetings where State, electric company, solid waste and other professionals are giving reports. Most rumors are untrue. I also noticed water levels are rising, but flooding is minimal at this point. All week there have been people giving out food and helping the community, despite their own situations.
Spread the Love Friday (10/19/2018)
It’s Spread the Love Friday. Between having staff at the Emergency Operations Center and one person out taking care of personal business, I’m left with my code enforcement officer and myself. We started the morning comforting each other. One thing that I can’t stress enough is how even when we trust God, we can still feel stress and emotions.
I looked around this morning in our meeting and realized that it’s easy to get caught up in our circumstances and forget what is going on behind the scenes. I saw sleeping eyes and exhausted workers. These folks have been working non-stop for days to ensure we have the things we take for granted, like rivers free from human wastes; hospitals and nursing homes where people are comfortable; trash removal; streets where people can drive safely, electricity and other utilities; and so much more. Often behind the scenes workers go unnoticed, but they contribute greatly to our quality of life.
During the course of the day, I contacted other cities to find out what they had done for emergency relief after storms. Everyone I called was beyond helpful. What a blessing! I worked late trying to take care of business, which helped me to feel a little relief.
Time for Yourself and Family Saturday (10/20/2018)
Good morning. It’s Time for Yourself and Family Saturday, and I’m at work. We have a City Commission Meeting today, where one of things I’m going to be addressing is how to temporarily change development and permitting requirements to make things easier for our citizens. After I catch up on work, if I have time, I will try to catch up on some school work. With no Internet, cell phone or electricity at home, it’s hard to study and I’ve fallen behind. We are hoping to have electricity by Halloween.
I did have a nice morning chatting with Anna over iced coffee. I’m so blessed to have a wonderful family. My husband and I talked this morning about how blessed we are. So many people had much worse. Anna also mentioned she saw where bodies were washing on shore and families were being found dead in their homes. I have lived here 52 years and we have never seen anything like this.
No one could have known and therefore, very few were prepared.
This morning I’m reminded of the sermon I heard on the Rhema app. The minister said we need to trust in God, not in things. Proverbs 3:5 tells us to “lean not on your own understanding”. It’s true. No one could possibly understand the whys of the past couple of weeks. In Philippians 4:6 Paul instructed the people to not be anxious about anything, but to always turn to God with prayer, petition and thanksgiving. You may wonder what there is to be thankful for in this type of situation. I can tell you everyone I have spoken to is thankful to be alive. In fact, every person I have asked how they were, despite how much damage they have had, they all say I’m blessed. Guess what? It is difficult to unplug from technology and take cold showers, but it’s not the end of the world. In fact, I’m beginning to get accustomed to my new routine. There are some inconveniences at work that require extra steps that take more time, but we are working through it. Sometimes loss of things and trust in God brings us closer together as a community. After all, it’s not things that bring happiness. We are taught in Matthew 22 that what’s most important is to love God with all our hearts and to love our neighbors as ourselves. Natural disasters remind us of the importance of these simple teachings. Maybe Laura Story is right. Maybe our blessing come in raindrops and the trials of our lives are our mercies in disguise.
“for the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which was lost.”
LUKE 19:10 AMP
Happy Saturday! In a time when there are so many superhero movies, I had someone ask me “who is your superhero?” Now, my family enjoys the superhero movies, but I really don’t care for that genre. However, I will watch them to keep from spoiling everyone’s fun and sometimes I find them entertaining. Sometimes I fall asleep. Britt likes Ironman and Landon likes all of the superheroes, but I think Batman is his favorite now. He even has a Batman bed. My first thoughts went to Superman with actor Christopher Reeves. Then, I started thinking about my studies in church history. How many people have died over time without a fight for Christianity. “Jesus” I replied. A not so unexpected laugh is what I received.
Last week during our multigenerational Sunday School class, I listened as a 15 year
old girl explained how if she prayed at school or spoke of God she would be suspended. I could hardly believe my ears. We live in a town of about 7,000 people with a church on every corner. I’m not so naive to think that this is because of anything other than federal law designed to protect some. Yet, this law stifles the rights of others.
A couple of weeks ago we watched the movie Paul, Apostle of Christ. The movie portrayed the degree to which Christians were willing to suffer for their beliefs. This suffering has continued throughout time. I’ve been reading Deeper Experiences of Famous Christians by James G. Lawson, which features diary entries intermingled with the history of each character. One story that has weighed heavy on my mind was about Madame Jeanne Guyon. There are so many more dating to recent Christian attacks.
So, what makes Christians willing to suffer all the while asking forgiveness for those who persecute them, whether in a bullying situation or being burned alive? Our Superhero, Jesus Christ! Christians know that everyone has sinned and fallen short of God’s glory (Romans 3:23). The price for sin is death, but through Jesus Christ, our free gift from God himself, we can have eternal life (Romans 6:23). All we have to do is call on the name of the Lord to be saved (Romans 10:13). Isn’t that great! If you have any doubt, study Christianity over time. These Christians are shadows of Christ. Christians also know the two most important commandments taught by Jesus are to love God with all your heart and your neighbor as yourself (Mark 12:29-31). We forgive because we are forgiven.
Let Jesus be your superhero! Have a wonderful Saturday. May God bless you.
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 KJV
Good Morning and Happy Friday!
What seems like is a great day for those of us who are anticipating the weekend, might be more challenging for others. There are people all around you suffering from emotional and physical pain. Often diseases are invisible to human eyes. You look at the person and don’t know the pain they are experiencing. They struggle to hide their suffering for many reasons. Emotional pain is even more invisible than physical, and can cause just as much suffering.
You don’t have to look hard to find people who need you to brighten their day. There was an elderly lady in front of me in the checkout line a couple of days ago. Her husband was in a wheel chair and she was having trouble working the credit card machine to pay. All she needed was someone to care enough to help her without compromising any security issues. I turned around and there was another lady who just wanted someone to listen to her. She was lonely. When we stop rushing from place-to-place, we can see pain all around us.
So, today when you see someone who is short-tempered, rude, or struggling, pause and pray for them silently. Ask God to work through you in their life. Maybe you can do something to ease their stress and pain. If you are in pain today, I will keep you in my prayers. Turn to God. He eases the suffering of the worn. God bless you.
I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. Ezekiel 36:26 NIV
Good morning or good evening, now. I started this post before 7 am. I was going to chat about flexibility today. As it turns out, my schedule had to adapt to the demands of the day. So I’m posting over 12 hours later.
Have you ever planned out your future only to get a major glitch? I’m an urban planner by profession and I plan out everything. I think my behavior makes some people a little crazy. If we go on a trip, I have events schedule from the beginning to the end. I can pack the activities in. Usually, my friends are amazed at what we can do. If I’m going to school, I have the journey planned down to when and how many hours a day I will study. At work I have lists of deadlines. I’m very focused on my goals whether at work, church, home and school.
Over the past few months I have had setbacks in my plans that placed me behind schedule on personal goals. I’ve also noticed that my age has slowed me down. This past weekend God dealt with me on this issue. He helped me to realize that faster isn’t necessarily better. Sometimes we need to learn life lessons along the way, and sometimes we need to take time for others. None of us are promised tomorrow. If you are busy, busy, busy, slow down and enjoy those around you. Help others. Give to others. Make the journey more meaningful.
As I noted at the beginning of this post, I had some delays today. However, I spent time with some of the people who needed my time and I grew along the way.
Today, I’m including a video forwarded to me by someone special in my life. Enjoy. I heard on the radio yesterday that WIllie Nelson has been unwell. Keep him and his family in your prayers. God bless you.
May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance. 1 Thessalonians 3:5
Good Morning. It’s Try Something New Tuesday. What will you try today?
I have found that when we try new things, our perspective changes. It can be something as small as sitting somewhere new in church. Many of us are accustomed to sitting in the same place every week. Try a different location. Things will appear different. With my job, I have a different perspective depending on whether I am walking or driving the area. I notice different things.
In this time where everyone wants gender integrated civic clubs and meetings, I’m going to suggest something bold. It’s okay to have meetings where there are only women or only men. I don’t say this because of fear of affairs or rumors of affairs when the two mix, but because sometimes women learn from and enjoy the company of other women. The same holds true for men. Sometimes men learn from other men and enjoy the company of other men.
I’ve been attending a Monday night Women’s Bible Study class for a little over a month. The class is held by a different denomination in a nearby town. When first invited, I must admit I was hesitant. I only knew one lady, and the meeting was twenty miles away after a long day at work. I’m so glad I took her up on the offer. I have gained new perspective on Scriptures and I have made about 20 new friends. We call each other sisters. It’s definitely girl fun time, but not the kind of fun time you see in movies. It’s a time of caring for one another and studying God’s word. I realize to some of you this might sound boring, but I assure you it isn’t boring and at the end of the day, my conscience doesn’t bother me. I didn’t realize I was missing this in my life. Sometimes God answers prayers when we aren’t paying attention. This has been an answered prayer for me.
I encourage you to seek out a Bible Study group in your area. God bless you.
First pride, then the crash— the bigger the ego, the harder the fall.
Proverbs 16:18 MSG
Good Morning! Tell me something good! I had a wonderful quiet weekend at home studying. I’m slowly catching up on some school work and planning an upcoming trip to New Orleans. It’s a business trip, but still exciting. I can’t wait to hear about your weekend.
Have you ever worked hard to accomplish something, praying along the way, only to later to take credit for what God has done in your life? Have you ever worked hard and felt most deserving, only to be overlooked repeatedly while someone less qualified seems to always be noticed. Well, you’re not alone. I heard a Hebrew parable over the weekend that went something like this. In this story God is the light and prosperity is a shadow. When you chase after the light and submerge yourself in the love of the light, the shadow will follow you. God takes care of those who put him first. He wants you to be successful and happy. However, if you chase after the shadow (prosperity), you will never catch your dreams. You’ll run in circles frustrated by your inability to make progress despite all the education, hours of work, community service or whatever else you do.
Start your week by submerging yourself in God’s love. Put him first and continue to work on building your career, family, vacation or whatever your dreams may be. God bless you.
Concerning this we have much to say, and it is hard to explain, since you have become dull and sluggish in [your spiritual] hearing and disinclined to listen. For though by this time you ought to be teachers [because of the time you have had to learn these truths], you actually need someone to teach you again the elementary principles of God’s word [from the beginning], and you have come to be continually in need of milk, not solid food. For everyone who lives on milk is [doctrinally inexperienced and] unskilled in the word of righteousness, since he is a spiritual infant. But solid food is for the [spiritually] mature, whose senses are trained by practice to distinguish between what is morally good and what is evil.
HEBREWS 5:11-14 AMP
Happy Tuesday. It’s a great time to try something new!
Have you ever considered how difficult it must have been for early Christians? Sometimes we make a small change in church and I have a difficult time adjusting. Many of the early Christians left behind all their family and friends. They faced opposition, which often meant death. Jesus’s brother James and James Zebedee were executed at the commands of Herod Agrippa. During Nero’s reign, to cut down on the growth of Christianity, there were organized massacres of Christians. Christianity was seen as a wicked superstition.
Early Christians were forced to question all their beliefs and traditions, and shift to a whole new lifestyle and way of thinking. Suddenly, they didn’t need a high priest to pray for them. They could pray directly to God through Jesus’s name. They became ministers to others. On top of all that, they were taught to take care of their neighbors, the sick, the poor, the widows, and the children left in the street. They were required to begin living a very strict moral life immediately. This only scratches the surface of changes. Yet, Christianity continued to grow.
It’s no wonder the early Christians stopped listening when the author of Hebrews was teaching them. Still, this scripture makes a very poignant statement. As Christians we need to continue to read, study, pray and grow. Being a Christian is not only for Sunday morning. It’s all week. It’s praying without ceasing. It’s continually studying the Bible. It’s growing closer to God.
Today, try something new. Grow as a Christian! God bless you.
For if you forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins], your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
Good morning! I hope you have a wonderful Thursday. This morning I have a little helper.
Is there someone in your life that just drives you crazy? Does someone’s habits get on your nerves? Does someone speak down to you like you’re stupid? I’d be surprised if no one in your life falls into one of these categories. Is it their problem or yours? It might be a little of both, but definitely yours, if you don’t forgive them and show them love. One thing that drives me crazy is uncleanliness. I have met people who have hang-ups about food. There are all kinds of little oddities that get under our skin. However, it is not our place to judge others. Jesus showed love to everyone, even those who were unclean. Why should we let our hang-ups get in the way of God’s love.
Also remember that everyone has bad things in their lives. No one is exempt. If you feel inundated with bad things that are making you sad, remember that it is how we choose to respond that makes the difference in our own happiness.
Today, if someone is driving you crazy, take a deep breath and reflect on what Jesus would do. Don’t forget to forgive yourself and others. God bless you.
My beloved friends, let us continue to love each other since love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and experiences a relationship with God. The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love—so you can’t know him if you don’t love. This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God. 1 John 4:7-10 MSG
Happy Friday! I can hardly believe how fast this week has gone by. It’s a glorious day here. The sun is shining, the flowers are blooming and spring has sprung. Next week is Spring Break for the local schools and the children are all excited to have a break. Some are going somewhere fun. Some are hanging out at home. Remember to be mindful this year of children being out of school. College students are out too. Don’t forget that we were all young at one time. Be patient and forgiving. Also remember to leave earlier than normal to allow time for heavier traffic. It’s a good practice to develop daily for ourselves and others.
This is a great time to spread God’s love. Take a deep breath and think of ways you can give back when you are aggravated because of longer lines or heavy traffic. There is always something we can do and it doesn’t have to be costly. It can just be a kind gesture. When you arrive home from work, do something nice for your spouse. There is just no end to the number of things you can do with little effort.